By Hindustan Times
I must confess that once me and my team met to finalize the 13 topics for Satyamev Jayate, I USED TO BE within the minority, or maybe alone, in desirous to drop this topic of ‘intolerance towards love’. I felt that there have been more important issues facing society. However, I USED TO BE beaten down by the bulk in my team who felt differently. India is changing… an unlimited component of our population is young... the youth must have the correct to make their very own choice and is starting to assert itself like never before... from Kashmir to Kanyakumari, urban, rural, that is a subject that each household is facing, or might be facing within the near future… !!! … I laid down my arms.
So what's Love?
An endless selection of poems, songs, stories, novels, essays, films and plays has been written or made on love. Every one people have our own interpretation of love, and to different people it means different things, but few can perhaps disagree on why it probably exists within the first place… for procreation. In fact there are other forms of love, but at the moment I'M restricting myself to attraction towards the other sex. Attraction towards the other sex is likely to be step one towards procreation, and therefore, it will be quite clear to us, that love is very important to our very existence. IT'S WHAT NATURE INTENDED. Isn’t it strange that, despite this, most folks in India are most alarmed and disturbed when their children fall in love?
Probably one of the crucial important decisions for your life can be whom you selected as your life partner. This one decision will decide the fate of greater than perhaps two-thirds of your life. It is going to decide how happy or sad everyday of your life is. It'll decide how exciting, enriching and fulfilling your life is, or how dull, boring and insipid your life is. It is going to decide how charming your life is, or how disgusting your life is. It is going to decide who your kids will transform. It's going to decide how safe your life is or how insecure or sometimes even dangerous your life is. Isn't it strange that 90% people in India don't take this one most significant decision ourselves? Instead we leave it to our near and costly ones, who, undoubtedly are wanting the most efficient for us… but should we be leaving this decision to them? To anyone?
“I know what's best for you so shut up and do as I say” is without doubt one of the scariest lines, I'VE come upon. I WILL BE ABLE TO remember the fact that elders are keen on their children and wish the most efficient for them. But would you like the most efficient for them, or would you like to select FOR THEM? In the event you truly want the most efficient for them, you'll encourage them to make a decision. Marriage is a vital decision, and prefer some other important decision of your life, it is going to be your own.
I think there may be merit within the advice that elders need to offer and positively the young should make full use of it. Why not take the good thing about their… mistakes :-). And certainly, our elders have seen a lot more of life than us.
And, if this one decision goes to affect me, in this type of deep and essential manner, shouldn’t I'VE the liberty to make that choice? Ironically that is the only freedom that we specifically don't give to our young. In reality we diligently guard against it. Why are we so frightened about our young falling in love? I should think we must always be worried in the event that they don’t! After I think back of the delicious joy, and the tender and mild emotions I felt after I first fell in love, I GLANCE forward to the day when my children feel the similar agony and the ecstasy. Why on this planet would I not want my children to feel something as beautiful? Every one folks has felt this feeling, regardless of how conservative we're today, regardless of whether we're able to admit it publicly or not. Then, why deny our young, that essential and first emotion that nature intended for us to feel. Instead, doesn't it make more sense to share of their joy… support them to make the appropriate decision… let them share with you their hopes and fears… and be there to steer them once they need your help.
And lastly, a lot of us are willing to simply accept a tender male member of our family falling in love. But if a tender girl from our family decides to claim her choice we suddenly feel a way of ‘loss of honour’. Why does our sense of honour rest within the sexual or emotional freedom of our girls? Shouldn’t it rest in our behaviour, our ethics, our values, our character, our honesty and our sense of integrity? I SUPPOSE a host issues in India finally boil all the way down to our patriarchal thinking, and our inability to permit our women to be empowered… in fact, our specific try to take power clear of them.
May be our young can teach us to feel differently.
Satyamev Jayate.
